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Why Can’t We Stop Judging One Another

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In today’s political climate it is clear to me one thing. We all need to be more understanding and realize when we just DO NOT know. We all have our own beliefs, our own fears, our own religions, but we all live separate lives. Every person experiences life, death, trauma, good situations and bad in different manners.

This is why we should not judge others.

Over the last several days my Facebook feed has been flooded with pro-life posts against the law in New York and late term abortions. Just so we start this with correct information here’s what the law says. “An abortion may be performed by a licensed, certified, or authorized practitioner within 24 weeks from the commencement of pregnancy, or there is an absence of fetal viability, or at any time when necessary to protect a patient’s life or health.”

Personally I’m pro-choice

But let me get something clear…. I’m not pro-abortion. I personally would not get an abortion. However, I was lucky enough to never be in the situation thus far to have to consider it. I did not get pregnant at 18 and have the baby’s dad leave me. I did not get pregnant so young that my parents had to continue taking care of me and then my child. I have not been raped. I have never had a drug addiction, alcohol addiction or any other problems that lend me incapable of taking care of myself or my children.

I also have had two healthy children.

Thank God. I did not get to the 7th month of a pregnancy to find out my child has a fatal disease. I have not had a stillbirth. I have not had a child die inside me, and I cannot imagine the turmoil that all of these situations cause. I also have not had to risk my own life to bring for the life of my children.

So I ask everyone this.

Have you been in those situations? If you’re passing judgment on those who have had to have abortions, specifically late term abortions, how can you truly understand the decision without going through it? You can have your opinions and you can never get an abortion yourself. That’s a wonderful decision to make for yourself, but we should not be making decisions for others. I cannot tell my daughter, if she gets pregnant at 18 to have an abortion. It’s her decision and I’ll support her if that happens. I cannot tell my coworker that she was wrong for having an abortion when she was younger (she’s in her 70s now), I do not understand where she was in her life in order for her to make that decision. I have no right to pass judgment and neither do you.

Judging Others is Nothing But Harmful

While we judge others we create walls. We separate ourselves from them. Creating this sense and belief of right and wrong. Separating ourselves from other people we lose chance to truly get to know them and understand them. We lose possible loves, friendships, and support.

I agree there are some stupid people in this world.

I, however, think judging all for the stupidity of some is wrong. This can be seen in political parties, religions, races, genders, everything. I’m a Christian but I’d hate to think I’d be judged because of those boys standing and mocking a native American man. Or those Catholic boys in black face. I’m a Christian but I feel ashamed at so many that feel they’re pro-life but are against helping those in need, homeless, veterans, even immigrants, I’d hate to be judged based of their beliefs. I am a feminist but I’d hate to be judged based on extremists who do possibly hate men (or act as if they do).

I’m not asking anyone to change their beliefs and opinions I’m simply asking for a little respect for not knowing.


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  1. Kristen Frolich says:

    Great post! It seems like everyone is way too judgmental these days. My stance is look in your own backyard before you think its okay to pass judgment on someone else.

  2. Thank you for writing about this. Such a great post. Thank you for your transparency.

  3. This is such a good post. I’ve seen so many judgmental Facebook posts in the last few weeks and they always make me so sad. We don’t know what is going on in people’s lives, so we shouldn’t judge them on their actions.

  4. This is so well written and frankly, if everyone adopted this viewpoint, it would be a much better world. You should never pretend to know what someone else has been through until you have actually walked in their shoes – and even then, it really isn’t anyone’s business to pass judgment. We all have our reasons for making certain decisions, many of which can be regrettable. It is then not at all helpful to be judged by others who clearly don’t know all the facts contributing to that decision. Great post.

  5. Great post! It seems that people are really sensitive now a days. It’s okay for people not to agree with each other and still be respectful to each other.

  6. Clare Minall says:

    This is such a great topic to be discussed. It is so sad seeing a lot of Judgemental Social Media Post. It is really breaks my heart. We shoyld all practice respect to one another.

  7. I could never understand why people are so judgemental. If you don’t get it you simply don’t get it, but there is no need to judge it. If something is good it is good without comparing it with anything else and definitely without judging the other version

  8. Such a great & important post! Can people just mind their own business, please? Happy to live in Sweden where being pro-choice is the norm and medical practicioners that don’t want to perform abortions are few.

  9. It is so important that we dont judge people at all.

  10. Love the way this post was written. So gentle and transparent. It has been a tough week seeing so many quickly passing judgement on women when they obviously didn’t even stop to actually read the law. I’ve also read heartbreaking stories of parents, loving parents, having to face such a tough decision. I’m pro-life but I also understand there are situations that one can’t even begin to phantom and I honestly don’t know what I would ever do if I had to make such a deicion!

  11. This was a good read. It’s crucial that we tame our tongue, knowing it can make or destroy. Most times it’s hard because people are “just people,” but your tongue is a fire.

  12. Rosey says:

    It’s always easy to judge when you haven’t been a part of the same kind of situation. I used to be guilty of it, without even knowing I was…I hope I’m still not, but I’m way more careful now not to judge others. Sometimes you just don’t know what life is going to throw at YOU.

  13. Monidipa Dutta says:

    I believe, By judging others, you make yourself easy to judge. Let’s stop judging others, and relieve them of the heavy burden they are carrying on their shoulders because of us. When we stop judging others and ourselves, our heart begins to open. If you judge people, you have no time to love them.

  14. Elizabeth O says:

    You have shared such an important matter here. This is a great post to be discussed. I have been faced judgement face many times in my life but never on abortion. I don’t like judge others in this kind of matters. We can’t even imagine their’s current position so it is really harsh when we pass our words without knowing the real situation.

  15. I don’t understand why we’re all so quick to judge either. It’s not good!

  16. This is a great post! I think it’s very easy for people to hide behind the anonymity the internet seems to provide and entitles people to say things they wouldn’t ordinarily say in person. People should remember that the Golden Rule extends to all situations; lin person or otherwise.

  17. I am the least judgemental person you will ever meet. I think it’s stupid. We are all unique in our own ways. I find that people who judge others are jealous and/or insecure with themselves.

  18. Good thoughts! I agree that judgemental attitudes say more about the person judging than the one being judged… Why can’t we just all get along? 🙂

  19. This is so true and applies for everything. We can each have our own beliefs without passing judgment on others. I’m sure we wouldn’t want to be judged based on our opinions, right? It is as simple as treating others the way you would want to be treated.


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