31 Days to a Positive Inner Voice: Making Self Care a Priority

I know for me I tend to always put others first. Whether it be my husband, kids, parents, siblings, or simply friends. I have a hard time saying no. Why? Because I want to help. I always want to be there for others and be someone they can rely on. How can this be harmful? …

31 Days to a Positive Inner Voice: How to Build Resilience

There are so many external factors that can cause us emotional upheaval. So many factors we cannot control. What we can control is how we face these emotions. How we talk to ourselves and how positively we experience the situation. We cannot always control factors such as being laid off, natural disasters, loss of a …

31 Days to a Positive Inner Voice: Perfectionism

Many of us are perfectionists at least to a degree. Striving for perfection in our lives however can be very negative. Often times perfectionists are actually achieve less then others and worry more. Considering no body is perfect its understandable that striving to be so can be harmful to our inner voice and self esteem. …

31 Days to a Positive Inner Voice: Fear of Failure

Everyone makes mistakes, when we make mistakes or fail we can experience a multitude of emotions. These emotions like, disappointment, fear, frustration, sadness, regret and confusion can become something we never want to experience again. We can feel shame for not succeeding. This shame and other negative emotions are truly what we begin to fear. …

31 Days to a Positive Inner Voice: Negative Self Talk and Relationships

Our own negative self talk, our inner voice, low self esteem, and self criticism can have major negative effects on relationships. It directly effects how we interact with other people. Our negative inner voice can also make it so we feel unworthy and undeserving. Often times making us lose any motivation to pursue our dreams, …

31 Days to a Positive Inner Voice: Overcoming Negativity Bias

Now that we understand some of the negative thinking styles that can cause negativity in our inner voice we need to start to consider where does the negativity come from. We all have a history we all have reasons we draw certain conclusions, whether they are rational or not. What in our past has shaped …

31 Days to a Positive Inner Voice: Fortune Telling

Have you ever thought you have some sort of clairvoyance? You can predict the future. Have you ever predicted the outcome of a situation or event and assumed it would have a negative outcome? This is fortune telling. This is a cognitive distortion that is harmful to our self esteem, inner self talk, and can …

31 Days to a Positive Inner Voice: Catastrophizing

A lot of us have irrational thoughts. Those irrational thoughts can be apart of our negative thinking style and a contributing factor to our negative self talk. One irrational thinking style that can be very harmful to our own self esteem, self talk and general mood is catastrophizing. What is Catastrophizing? Catastrophizing is when we …

31 Days to a Positive Inner Voice: Personalization

It can be hard for most anyone to not have this thinking style at least at times. Personalization Personalization is another cognitive distortion, a very unhelpful thinking style that can harm our inner voice and self esteem. Personalization is when we take things extremely personally or tend to blame ourselves for events out of our …

31 Days to a Positive Inner Voice: Understand Your Thinking Style

There are so many ways we think and we all have different thinking styles. These thinking styles can help us in many ways, they can be what is positive in our thinking and what is negative. They can be how we easily interact with some people yet have trouble with others. Many of these thinking …