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How to Raise Strong, Respectful, Moral Children without Religion

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There is a long-standing belief that morals are tied to religion in some manner or another. However, I believe that it is possible, and truly most people do, teach their kids morals and values, and religion is not a part of it. You do not have to be religious to be a good, moral, and a respectful person. There are many ways to raise moral children without religion and there are many, many, respectful, moral people in this world.How to Raise Moral Children

Morals are principles of right and wrong. Generally, religion gives people a standard to live by, morals. For instance, in the Christian religion there is the 10 commandments. This gives Christians a guideline, a set of instructions, as does the Bible, on what is right, what is good, and how to live a good, moral life.

Society also gives people the same sort of standards. Laws give people guidelines and those that are considered moral are those considered to be good. They follow the law, they follow the rules and they do not ruffle feathers.

How to raise moral children without the Bible!

Some most common morals are….

  • Tell the Truth
  • Have Courage
  • No Sex Before Marriage (I don’t agree with this)
  • Keep Your Promises
  • Treat Others as you Want to be Treated
  • Be Forgiving
  • Have Integrity
  • Have Patience
  • Be Loyal
  • Be Tolerant
  • Serve Mankind
  • Be Generous

So how do you teach these to children without the Bible? How do you raise moral children without religion?

Be an Example

One of the best ways for children to learn how to act and how to be is to be an example. If you want children to be forgiving then you need to be forgiving.How to Raise Moral Children

Find Teachable Moments

There are always moments that arise where you may have to stop your child, show them what was right or wrong with an action they did or words they said. For instance, telling the truth. How often do we know kids to lie because of fear of punishment? Teach your children it is better to tell the truth then lie. Telling the truth makes you trustworthy.

Read to Them

So many stories, including the Bible of course, have stories with morals to them. You however, do not need the Bible to have moral stories and to teach morals. Fairy Tales have morals, different mythologies from around the world have morals. Children’s pictures often have morals. Read to them and then discuss the moral of the story. What did the characters do? What did they learn? How did it affect them?

Engage Them in Moral Inquiry

Ask them about what they think is right and wrong and why. Discuss with them. Be open to their response and that they may change your mind. Make sure they know it is okay to question.

Know Your Moral Beliefs

Know what you believe is moral. Share those beliefs with your children. Discuss them and why you believe they are moral. Discuss them and let your children question you, answer them as honestly and as completely as possible. Raising moral children should always include letting them question you and learn for themselves.

How to Raise Moral ChildrenUse Discipline

Help your child understand consequences of their actions. This helps them understand what they did that deserved discipline and how their actions can change. Explain and help them understand emotional consequences. For instance, “you hurt your brother when you hit him and that made him sad.” Helping them understand emotions and how their actions made others feel can direct a specific understanding. This also helps teach empathy.

The Golden Rule

One of the best morals and values that has lived on for centuries is the golden rule. “Treat others as you wish to be treated.” Teaching this to your children will help them understand their actions and what consequences. If you do not like being shunned by kids at school, then why would it be okay for you to do it to others. How does it make you feel? How do you think it makes that kid feel? This connection helps children understand through empathy.

Moral children become moral, respectful, citizens in society. Religious backgrounds do help those create a moral code to live by but that does not mean you have to be religious to live a moral life. Morality and what is moral may be defined a little different based on religions, societies, and cultures but generally what is considered living a good life is universal, or should be.

Sarah

Related Posts:

Gender Discrimination in Religion: Why I Want to Teach My Kids Differently

Why I Plan to Teach My Kids to Have Sex Before Marriage

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9 Comments

  1. These are great morals! Love the list

  2. […] How to Raise Strong, Moral, Respectful Children Without Religion […]

  3. Thank you for sharing this. The most important thing in raising kids is making sure they have strong morals.

  4. I really love this! Religion isn’t everything! 🙂

  5. Sarah, I loved this entire read. I am spiritual but not religious and I couldn’t agree more. You can be a morally good person without religion. There’s no need for “set rules” and “well we can’t do this or that because that’s what the rule is.”

    As a conscious parent, I love being cognizant of how things [such as religion] isn’t necessary when it comes to raising strong + wholesome kids.

  6. Our family has never been religious. I was raised by a disabled grandmother, and she raised me to be a good person. It doesn’t have to do with religion; it has to do with how you are raised!

  7. Love this post; and those common morals you include are definitely ones everyone should keep in mind regardless of who they are or what path they follow..

  8. I’d definitely keep your tips in mind. it’s every parent’s dream to raise a child with high moral standards.

  9. Gervin Khan says:

    I like this post and really have a great time reading this. I agree with everything you’ve said here, and I think one of the best ways to teach them is to be a good example.

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