In today’s political climate it is clear to me one thing. We all need to be more understanding and realize when we just DO NOT know. We all have our own beliefs, our own fears, our own religions, but we all live separate lives. Every person experiences life, death, trauma, good situations and bad in different manners.
This is why we should not judge others.
Over the last several days my Facebook feed has been flooded with pro-life posts against the law in New York and late term abortions. Just so we start this with correct information here’s what the law says. “An abortion may be performed by a licensed, certified, or authorized practitioner within 24 weeks from the commencement of pregnancy, or there is an absence of fetal viability, or at any time when necessary to protect a patient’s life or health.”
Personally I’m pro-choice
But let me get something clear…. I’m not pro-abortion. I personally would not get an abortion. However, I was lucky enough to never be in the situation thus far to have to consider it. I did not get pregnant at 18 and have the baby’s dad leave me. I did not get pregnant so young that my parents had to continue taking care of me and then my child. I have not been raped. I have never had a drug addiction, alcohol addiction or any other problems that lend me incapable of taking care of myself or my children.
I also have had two healthy children.
Thank God. I did not get to the 7th month of a pregnancy to find out my child has a fatal disease. I have not had a stillbirth. I have not had a child die inside me, and I cannot imagine the turmoil that all of these situations cause. I also have not had to risk my own life to bring for the life of my children.
So I ask everyone this.
Have you been in those situations? If you’re passing judgment on those who have had to have abortions, specifically late term abortions, how can you truly understand the decision without going through it? You can have your opinions and you can never get an abortion yourself. That’s a wonderful decision to make for yourself, but we should not be making decisions for others. I cannot tell my daughter, if she gets pregnant at 18 to have an abortion. It’s her decision and I’ll support her if that happens. I cannot tell my coworker that she was wrong for having an abortion when she was younger (she’s in her 70s now), I do not understand where she was in her life in order for her to make that decision. I have no right to pass judgment and neither do you.
Judging Others is Nothing But Harmful
While we judge others we create walls. We separate ourselves from them. Creating this sense and belief of right and wrong. Separating ourselves from other people we lose chance to truly get to know them and understand them. We lose possible loves, friendships, and support.
I agree there are some stupid people in this world.
I, however, think judging all for the stupidity of some is wrong. This can be seen in political parties, religions, races, genders, everything. I’m a Christian but I’d hate to think I’d be judged because of those boys standing and mocking a native American man. Or those Catholic boys in black face. I’m a Christian but I feel ashamed at so many that feel they’re pro-life but are against helping those in need, homeless, veterans, even immigrants, I’d hate to be judged based of their beliefs. I am a feminist but I’d hate to be judged based on extremists who do possibly hate men (or act as if they do).
I’m not asking anyone to change their beliefs and opinions I’m simply asking for a little respect for not knowing.