I have been a mom now for two years and I have yet to make a mom-friend. I read article after article, blog post after blog post, and see so many videos, vlogs, etc about the importance of making a mom friend. It doesn’t take long after having your first child why this is such a prevalent topic.
As Valentine’s Day approaches I see, like every year, ads, on social media, on commercials, and in stores, pitching gift sales for your loved ones. Yes, it is very important to display your love and gratitude for the people around you but I tend to argue that just once a year, on a holiday, is an excuse. It should be done year-round. What I fail to see around this time of year is the importance of self-love and I think that is a huge failing to society as a whole.
With the start of the new year I’ve decided I need to be more grateful. I need to remember my blessings more, stop complaining, be happy, and live in the moment. In an effort to do so I’ve started declaring one thing I’m thankful for a day. I’m doing so on my Instagram feed check it out at @ssageadvice.
Never let your actions be dictated by your libido. Remember ‘No’ means ‘No’ and learn when someone is incapable of giving consent. Your actions define who you are. Not your friends, not your money, not your car, nothing else. Be sincere. Do not make a promise you cannot keep and keep every promise you make. …
Do not dumb yourself down for anyone. Knowledge is power be open minded to learn new things and remember what you know now may change. Toys, colors, activities, are not determined by gender. Do what you love. This includes playing in dirt, jumping, swinging, running. Get dirty if you want and play hard. Do …
I do wonder where I would be had I made a different decision. I was afraid. I feared failure. I feared loneliness. I feared the unknown. And honestly, I still fear all of those things. That fear kept me from reaching something that may have been everything to me. That fear still keeps me from so many things.
Who is your greatest enemy? Have you ever considered it may be yourself? Do you procrastinate until the very last second? Do you secretly fear success? Do you quit when things get tough or because you do not see instant success? These are all self-sabotaging behaviors and they are a sign that you may be your own enemy.
Journaling can be a very helpful with many mental health issues especially low self-esteem and rampant self-doubt. Have you ever been extremely anxious, angry, sad, frustrated, and once you spoke to someone, or wrote it down, you felt better? Just being able to express yourself is very important for happiness. Journaling is a fantastic way to express yourself.
As the new year approaches I’ve been thinking about what I could do to be a better person. How can I expand my growth further this new year? As I was thinking about this I came across this idea of what makes kids good adults. What do we learn as a child that is necessary to survive as an a loving, caring, successful adult? These are a couple things I think are important for kids to learn and things we should do to teach them as well as things our kids can remind us of as we live day to day.
I’ve always been pretty adamant that I try to keep items for my kids as gender neutral as possible. I will buy my daughter dress with flowers on them and I will by my son onesies with Dinosaurs on them because there’s just some things with society that has gender roles so engrained you cannot avoid them. But when at all possible I try to do what I can to teach my children that “boy” toys and “girl” toys are nonsense. So here are some toys that I find are great for gender neutrality.