There are many blog posts out there about being a lonely mother. The topic has a lot of interest and it totally makes sense considering that motherhood really is lonely, especially for stay at home moms. I’m sure there are many other factors that can be rough as a working mother as well, including judgments from those around you. No matter your situation motherhood is a tough job.
I am both a working mother and a stay at home mother. I work, part time, but I am blessed enough to be able to take my child, soon to be children, with me. Now, one pro of being a working mother that helps with the lonely aspect is that while you’re working you can get adult interaction. I don’t actually get that while I’m working. I work in a community theater in the box office, during the day there may be a couple people that will come to the window to buy tickets, or a couple people calling in, but otherwise we are locked in an empty theater. So, when it comes to the loneliness I am a stay at home mom with very little adult interaction.
I am also an introvert. As I grew up I never really thought of myself as introverted. I am the second to youngest of six kids. I’ve always loved the busy, crazy life that entailed. I’ve been an aunt since I was nine years old, I have seven nephews now and six nieces. My family is large and in charge, but over the last few years I find myself preferring the quieter lifestyle. That can make the loneliness really hard and frustrating.
On a day-to-day basis I want adult interaction but would also just like to relax at home alone. I want to go out, I want to be able to just have fun and not worry about my child, but when it comes down to it, I don’t want to be away from her, or put in the work to schedule something with friends. It would be great to simply talk to someone other then my husband but then I also worry about being a bother to others. This is considering my most used topics of conversation lately are either about politics (which I try not to get into with others because it may mean disrespectful rants from either side), my daughter (because face it she’s cute and my whole world right now), or a lot of complaints about people that cause my stress (I’m a married woman I’m sure most women could guess this without me saying who specifically).
I am lucky and I do try to remember to count my blessings. I have an amazing husband, an amazing daughter; I’m soon to have an amazing son. My family is so very supportive and I have many friends and acquaintances that would come running if I needed them. What I really need to remember is I am not alone and that’s one thing I would like to convey. Lonely momma, you are not alone. Lonely, introverted momma, you are not alone. I understand the need for interaction, yet the need for quiet time. Are you a lonely, introverted momma? Let me know how you cope? What helps you get buy and get the quiet time, or the adult interaction you need?