As a mom, it can be really hard to make friends. You want to find a friend who has a lot in common, this usually can mean another mom. Someone that understands your odd schedule. Someone that understands your days on end rants about screeching babies, potty training, diaper changes, and cartoon movies on repeat. …
I have been a mom now for two years and I have yet to make a mom-friend. I read article after article, blog post after blog post, and see so many videos, vlogs, etc about the importance of making a mom friend. It doesn’t take long after having your first child why this is such a prevalent topic.
As Valentine’s Day approaches I see, like every year, ads, on social media, on commercials, and in stores, pitching gift sales for your loved ones. Yes, it is very important to display your love and gratitude for the people around you but I tend to argue that just once a year, on a holiday, is an excuse. It should be done year-round. What I fail to see around this time of year is the importance of self-love and I think that is a huge failing to society as a whole.
With the start of the new year I’ve decided I need to be more grateful. I need to remember my blessings more, stop complaining, be happy, and live in the moment. In an effort to do so I’ve started declaring one thing I’m thankful for a day. I’m doing so on my Instagram feed check it out at @ssageadvice.
I do wonder where I would be had I made a different decision. I was afraid. I feared failure. I feared loneliness. I feared the unknown. And honestly, I still fear all of those things. That fear kept me from reaching something that may have been everything to me. That fear still keeps me from so many things.
Who is your greatest enemy? Have you ever considered it may be yourself? Do you procrastinate until the very last second? Do you secretly fear success? Do you quit when things get tough or because you do not see instant success? These are all self-sabotaging behaviors and they are a sign that you may be your own enemy.
Journaling can be a very helpful with many mental health issues especially low self-esteem and rampant self-doubt. Have you ever been extremely anxious, angry, sad, frustrated, and once you spoke to someone, or wrote it down, you felt better? Just being able to express yourself is very important for happiness. Journaling is a fantastic way to express yourself.
As the new year approaches I’ve been thinking about what I could do to be a better person. How can I expand my growth further this new year? As I was thinking about this I came across this idea of what makes kids good adults. What do we learn as a child that is necessary to survive as an a loving, caring, successful adult? These are a couple things I think are important for kids to learn and things we should do to teach them as well as things our kids can remind us of as we live day to day.
This is a question that’s been on my mind ever since my second child, my son Jacob, was born six months ago. I grew up in a large family, I have five siblings, my mother has five siblings. I have cousins and more cousins, busting from the seams. I loved it, most of the time. I always thought I wanted four kids of my own. Not as big as my parents had but not too small either. I thought it would be perfect.
Having a second baby may not necessarily mean you’re a “new mom” but considering that every baby is different, the learning curve continues and there will be new challenges for each child no matter how many you have.